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What makes a hero heroic? Are his selfless acts really worthy of our praise? The hero, in my opinion, only reminds us of our most basic of instincts…selfless love. In order to be called a hero one had to act to preserve life. It was his demonstration of true selfless love that gave him your respect and honor. Hero’s ultimately demonstrate the precedence of our most primary of instincts…to love unconditionally. It is the plight of the hero to act thoughtlessly and selflessly in the face of supreme peril only to preserve the life of another – no matter the person. This is, in my opinion, the ultimate portrayal of love. To sacrifice ones own life to act in favor of another person. Sadly, it’s always the coward who lives to tell the tale of how that hero got killed.

I wrote about love years ago. I thought I had a fairly good understanding then, but time has taught me a deeper knowledge – a deeper understanding. Love is the most positive of our energies. As soon as we enter this world, it would seem that it is the first thing we know and understand, intertwined into our primal instincts. We grasp love before jealousy, hate, sorrow, pain, indifference, conflict, hate or grief. We are born understanding, but we are taught to misunderstand it by our individual observations and learning’s.

But what is love truly? Many scholars, priests, sages and wise men have tried to untangle the web of this intricate weaving. Love is not a feeling, in my opinion; it’s not a confession and it’s not an entitlement. True love is always shown. This is how you know you are loved. This is what your heart responds too. This is why you get butterflies in your stomach or why you just know. Sex is the ultimate expression of this principal. Its one of the best ways to express your love, desire, passion and affection for another. You have received confirmation through someone else’s actions or their lack of action. A stranger can profess love, but true love is shown…it is always an action not a confession. Someone can tell you they love you but not properly convey this in their actions. Unconsciously, this is the red flag you recognize and evaluate for truth. Actions speak louder than words. The best description I’ve observed comes from one of the oldest authorities on the subject…the bible. 1 Corinthians 13 describes what love is and what it is not:

• Love is patient
• Love is kind
• Love does not envy
• Love does not boast
• Love is not proud
• Love is not rude
• Love is not self-seeking
• Love is not easily angered
• Love keeps not record of wrongdoing
• Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices in truth
• Love always protects
• Love always hopes
• Love always trusts
• Love always perseveres
• Love never fails

If we take a closer look at these descriptions we see that all these statements are those of either actions or restraint/inactions. Upon study of these things, I realized that it is not enough to say you love someone, it is best felt by your actions. Again, actions speak louder than words.

If you compare yourself to these things and can honestly admit that you are guilty of a few of these items, then you may need to re-evaluate your confessions personally and to your partner. Am I an expert? No. Do I operate in all these actions continually? No. But I understand it and I try. So should you. True love would allow me to not be perfect and be patient with me as I grow into something better. Love would be kind and not rude. Love would not easily be angered with my shortfalls. Love would hope for the best in me and never give up on me. This is the mystery of it all. Love would think of me unselfishly and forgive me for my wrongdoings. Love would encourage me and see the best in me and speak positive energy into the corners of my being that are engulfed with negativity. A true lover can bring the best out of one admired. They want to see you prosper and improve.

I have traveled to many places and met many people. Some showed their understanding of this principal, but many did not. I yearn for the masses to have their eyes opened to our greatest strength and will continue to profess it until the day I transition to a higher level of being.

You’ve loved some and not received ample return. Some have loved you and you neglected a good thing. The future of love in your life can only be determined by your efforts to put it into action. Love to be loved. Robert Frost summed it up best when he said: “Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.” Anything worth having is worth the effort to obtain and keep. But nothing will happen if you don’t take action. Be the hero in your own life, because hero’s are loved throughout the world. Live the life you love and love the life you live. What a wonderful thing it is to be truly loved, admired, respected and worshiped. When most feel these things there is no limit to the ecstasy experienced. Love is always proven with action. The real question is are you in love enough to act?